Leaving A Relationship

What Makes Leaving a Relationship Difficult?


Leaving a relationship have to be the most difficult part of any relationship. You wish to never reach this end but if you do then you have to.

Often the challenge of leaving a relationship gracefully is how to end a relationship without hurting any body's feelings. The effects of rejection and the guilt you would have to feel if you make a person seem rejected is a most difficult concern.

When somebody is leaving a relationship, it often is difficult to avoid thinking that if someone no longer wants to be with them then there must be something wrong with them. They see the break-up as a negative reflection of their worth as a person. On the other hand, it is a fact that there are very few people with whom we would feel that deep connection. We don't feel connected to most people, so there's no reason to think that just because someone no longer feels any more connection in the relationship then there's something wrong with one (or both) of them. All of us have met perfectly wonderful people yet just don't feel the connection, and that is just the way it is. No use to feel rejected or guilty.

Leaving a relationship doesn't mean judging a person's adequacy. In the first place, you started with the relationship with the assurance that you would respect and care for each other no matter who they are. And so, when leaving a relationship, this special bond doesn't necessarily go away. If it is considered that it's better to end the relationship, more often than not, the reason is that the relationship is just not ready or fit to proceed into the next level.

Still in some cases, when a person leaves his/her partner, most often it's really not because his partner is inadequate, rather the person who suddenly decided to let go of the relationship is the one having a problem of staying in any relationship - the 'It's not you, it's me' concern. In my opinion this is the first thing to mull about when choosing to leave a relationship.

Nonetheless, it may be better leaving a relationship than waiting, and waiting still, hoping to give time to feel the connection which you know would most probably won't come. Whether or not the person you left felt hurt after the breakup, you can't say you're responsible for how he/she feels. In this case it would be better of if he/she thinks that the end-up wasn't a judgment of his worth, that it's just the way it is, they're just 'not meant to be', that it just might actually be for his own good.
Leaving a relationship gracefully simply means speaking and accepting the truth. No judgment and the burdening responsibility for the other person's emotions. Though you will get hurt, the beautiful thing in the end is that both of you could still smile looking forward to searching for your perfect match.